By Elly Mullins A Loving Command About Rest For anyone who has spent time with an infant, or time with someone who has had an infant, you know that the period after a baby is born is exhausting. But not exhausting in the way a college all-nighter is exhausting. And not exhausting in the way …
My husband, Greg, isn’t just a nice guy, he’s the nicest guy. It comes from his gut—there’s no faking, no thinking twice, and no trying to appeal to the person on the other side of the conversation. He’s just nice—deeply empathetic, deeply intuitive, and able to decipher what people want, need, and mean before they …
By Elly Mullins “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be married?” Sometimes my therapist would ask me, after I shared about a conflict with my husband: “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be married?” Some weeks when he asked this, and I’d respond that marriage …
By Lee Ruggles Intuition, as defined by Psychology Today, is a form of knowledge that appears in consciousness without obvious deliberation. It is not magical but rather a faculty in which hunches are generated by the unconscious mind rapidly sifting through past experience and cumulative knowledge. It can also be defined as a feeling, an …
By Lee Ruggles The phone rings as I finish my first cup of coffee. Good morning, I chirp cheerfully. I can’t stand the heat. I really wish I hadn’t moved down here! It’s only a few months, I tell him. You could move further north, I add. Yeah, but I’m also bored out of my …
By Lee Ruggles I remember where I was sitting when it all started. The teacher was at the front of the room. It was early afternoon when it hit me softly but firmly. I had been going about this life-thing all wrong. The key to true popularity and acceptance was to agree with what the …
By Elly Mullins Keeping Our Minds Flexible I first met Gray when he was eight years old. He sat on the floor of his mother’s living room coloring a picture of a robot; he nervously looked away as I entered the room to join him, his mother, and the case manager who was facilitating our …
By Jessica Ambrose It can be uncomfortable, but it takes knowing your character traits – both good and bad – to truly achieve personal growth You’re asked to describe yourself. Where do you start? Maybe it’s an interview or just a friendly conversation about who you are. You’ll likely take a pretty safe approach: you’ll …
By Jan Litterst In order to truly understand a person’s inner qualities, we must first allow them to express their thoughts and feelings This is a favorite question of mine personally and professionally, and it has become more important to me in all relationships. I have learned to listen more and judge less. So often …
By Kate Lingren Understanding the IFS Model at Work It’s a concept that’s as simple as it is complex: Our core selves are made up of multiple parts. Everything we humans do, from our words to our actions, is an attempt to get a need met on behalf of one of our parts. These needs …